I’ve been reflecting on just how much has changed in the 4 weeks since my fibroid removal surgery. The time off from work, fundraising and training now feels like a gift in that I’ve not been distracted and been able to reflect deeply on life.
As I slowly emerge from this first phase of recovery, I feel like I’ve gained perspective on things and allowed my brain the rest it needed to be able to recognise new possibilities. But, most importantly, I’ve emerged with a strong sense of self, and I’ve realised the need to implement some key actions to help me achieve my goals.
Exercise my Agency
Life’s thrown me some pretty awful curveballs in the last decade, particularly when it comes to my health. But now, especially after this last surgery I feel like the world could finally truly become my oyster. I have the chance to live a life that’s no longer burdened by physical pain or restricted by the anxiety of not knowing when the next fatigue bout will hit. And now that this weight has been lifted, I feel there’s more freedom to plan and it’s simply wonderful!
Reinforce My Boundaries
I really struggle with reinforcing boundaries that I’ve set for myself at work and in my personal life and that has at times caused me more stress and anxiety. Saying no can sometimes feel like you’re being mean, unkind, or even lazy. But, by saying no, or not right now, you’re actually giving yourself the time and energy to create the space necessary to excel at the tasks in hand.
I’m guilty of becoming so used to being turned down or dismissed that when an opportunity presents itself, I feel rather foolish for considering and rejecting it rather that accepting. But I’m learning that it really does pay to examine things thoroughly, to see if they align with your vision, goals, and values before accepting. A kind no can often be the best course of action.
Protect My Energy
The first thing that can often spring to mind when people mention ‘protecting your energy’ is blocking out negativity or distancing yourself from negative and hurtful people. Now whilst this is a key element, I think it’s also important to actively seek out and surround yourself with people who challenge, educate, inspire, and encourage you. As you protect your energy, you make space for your character to grow making it easier to be gracious and kind even when a situation may not warrant it.